Most of us don’t realize how much work planning a wedding is until we get engaged. In a recent survey done by Wedding Paper Divas, 40% of brides were spending 10-15 hours PER WEEK on her wedding. It’s practically a part time job. While most of us wish we could afford to hire a wedding planner to help with every little detail, the majority of us simply cannot afford it.
Know the difference between an escort card and place card? Fear not; most brides don’t! In addition to your standard paper items (invitations, RSVP card, map with directions and any other inserts, and thank you cards), you’ll likely also need some paper items for the day of your wedding. I’ve gone through each type of day-of paper item and explain what it is, the pros/cons of the item, and variations or other ideas. In addition, I also include my personal pro tips for each type of paper & signage. Most of the paper items below can be purchased through your invitation person or online along with your invites so everything matches. Many of these can also be done by yourself if you have the time, patience and sense of adventure. Don’t be afraid to get creative!
As a wedding planner, I attend food tastings for virtually every client and they are always a blast. You get this awesome meal with tons of options that you’d probably never order at a restaurant. But tastings aren’t just to have a good meal. The goal of a tasting should be to select your menu for the wedding and to have a very clear idea of what you’ll be getting the day of your event.
The minute I walked through the Mediterranean house and on to the sprawling emerald green grass, I knew I was in trouble. On the edge of the lawn was a rocky cliff followed by the most gorgeous and expansive view of the Santa Barbara coastline. At that moment I said to myself, “I don’t care if I have to serve mac n’ cheese to my guests. I’m getting married here.”
Relationship advice is always out there. Sometimes I click on the headlines, sometimes not. But for some reason, I did click on a recent Atlantic article and what it had to say about marriage stuck with me.
“Of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages…”
3 in 10? That means that 7 of your currently married friends are miserable right now. Wow, that stat seriously sucks. Most people get so caught up planning for the wedding, that they totally forget about what comes after; marriage. So how do you make sure we end up in the “3 group” after you get married?
Virtually every couple uses a wedding website or “wedsite” these days. It’s a great place to put all the information that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Some choose to collect their RVSPs via their wedsite too. These personal sites are also perfect for the sensitive information that doesn’t go on the invitation such as whether children are permitted and what the dress code is for each event. As you start to look, you’ll find that there are a crazy amount of options out there. It can get really overwhelming to choose one. Here are some fabulous wedsites for every budget.
Many of my clients ask me if I think it would be a good idea to have their brother/ dad/ best friend officiate the ceremony. Having a loved one perform the nuptials may make the ceremony feel much more personal and intimate, but can also be a bit awkward. Like anything, being a professional officiant is a skill. They have mastered the art of public speaking.
The average wedding in the United States costs over $25,000. The majority of the cost will be in the non-refundable deposits which are applied to your balance. But what happens if the country club suddenly shuts down or your caterer fails to show up the day of the wedding?